Difficult Time

I want to talk about a difficult subject, so this will not be a "normal" posting.

One of my colleagues' husband has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and has only three to six months to live. Our hearts go out to their family. This happens, it's difficult and understand that someone knows someone who has been directly impacted with a difficult situation like this. It is not easy.

As a leader, this situation will happen to one of your colleagues or direct reports (or family member). I hope it doesn't happen. When it has happened to other leaders, I have been asked before, how do you handle a situation as a leader. Well, first, it is not easy, this is a sad and difficult time. Here are some thoughts:

1. Don't Ignore (some leaders will go into hiding, that is not the right move)
2. Acknowledge the situation (go to the person directly impacted and talk/listen to them. If appropriate and approved by the person, communicate to the team. I have found that teams are at their best when supporting a team member)
3. Lend your support (provide support in ways that will be beneficial, e.g., set up a meals delivery from the office whereby one team member delivers the family meal each night)
4. Be Patient

I know, not great advice, but again, this is not easy.

It is strange when this happens, you do get a slap in the face and realize that life is precious (no I am not going on a speech here). Sometimes, we get into the "rate race" of work and forget about it. Hug your spouse/partner/children/parents today, dont wait until tomorrow. When you look around or into the mirror, are you happy? If so, GREAT keeping doing the same things to make you happy. If not, do something that will make you happy. Enjoy Life.